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i've noticed a few threads on this so i thought i would put this here.
if you are hurting yourself and wanting to stop, there are ways to stop. first, you need to tell someone. a trusted friend, pastor, teacher or even your parents. talk to them about what you are doing and why. many people doinng it for different reasons, but it is mainly a way to cope with stress or rough times. professional help is not always nessicary, but recommended. the next thing is to find a replacement activity. bscically find a hobbie. when you get the urge to harm yourself, take a walk, play guitar, write poems/songs, sing, or pray. everyone has a different one, you just need to find it.
if you suspect a friend of harming themselves, you should talk to them. be calm and don't act upset. that's the last thing they want to know that they are hurting you. ask them whats going on and mainly be a good friend. most importantly, listen. don't just talk. see why they are doing it and just be there for them. you never know, you could be saving their life just by caring.
in my opinion, i would not tell an adult just yet. after a certian amount of tim and things aren't getting better, then it would be a good idea to tell their parents. telling parents sooner can make things worse. i know this from experience.
same to parents, if you suspect a child of injuring themself. sit them down calming and ask what's going on. let them be honest with you as you are with them. it helps a lot knowing your own parents will not be judgmental and willing to work through this. even if the problem invloves the parents.
people who do this most of the time are not suicidal and definetly not crazy. it was just their way of coping for that time. it's an addiction so it takes time to stop. a strong family and/or friend support team can make the difference. i hope this helped anyone at all.
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that's great advice.....
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Originally Posted by HolyRockJfreak that's great advice.....
thank you.
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Originally Posted by rkfan4 if you suspect a friend of harming themselves, you should talk to them. I'd be careful with this one. If anyone were to ever confront me about it, first I would deny it till I was blue in the face, even if they saw me with bloody arms and a razorblade in my hand I would not admit that I did it. Second, I would be pretty upset with them for even suggesting that I did it, and I would basically tell them to **** off and mind their own damn business.
I'm not saying that this is how everyone would respond, I'm just saying one should be careful with confronting a friend, especially just based on a suspicion. It has the possibility of backfiring pretty badly.
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Originally Posted by Dr. Worm I'd be careful with this one. If anyone were to ever confront me about it, first I would deny it till I was blue in the face, even if they saw me with bloody arms and a razorblade in my hand I would not admit that I did it. Second, I would be pretty upset with them for even suggesting that I did it, and I would basically tell them to **** off and mind their own damn business.
I'm not saying that this is how everyone would respond, I'm just saying one should be careful with confronting a friend, especially just based on a suspicion. It has the possibility of backfiring pretty badly.
that's true. when i was first confronted about it, i denied it, even though it was pretty obvious. still, being confronted can help. knowing someone actually is noticing what your doing and cares about it.
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Originally Posted by rkfan4 that's true. when i was first confronted about it, i denied it, even though it was pretty obvious. still, being confronted can help. knowing someone actually is noticing what your doing and cares about it.
being confronted like that does help.
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YEAH. mYself, when I did it, I was dong it for attentionfrom my ex-girlfriend, and when someone actually noticed i was doing it, it showed me that at least someone cares.
I guess though if I had put God first instead of my girlfriend then I woudn't have needed to...
but some would be happy to know someone cares
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Excellant job RkFan. This is great advice. I am sure it will come in handy one day if I ever have to help someone with it. You are a blessing,
God bless.
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thank you.
i hope this can help someone..
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Originally Posted by Thrash YEAH. mYself, when I did it, I was dong it for attentionfrom my ex-girlfriend, and when someone actually noticed i was doing it, it showed me that at least someone cares.
I guess though if I had put God first instead of my girlfriend then I woudn't have needed to...
but some would be happy to know someone cares
this comes pretty close to what i'm feeling. but i literally feel like i'm dead inside. like under my skin isn't a valued human being, just a corpse. and it's as if i'm trying to prove to myself that i'm actually here.
i'm too afraid to tell anyone. i don't know what they'll say. i know they'll judge me.
good news is, i haven't cut once today. but i really wanted to.
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this comes pretty close to what i'm feeling. but i literally feel like i'm dead inside. like under my skin isn't a valued human being, just a corpse. and it's as if i'm trying to prove to myself that i'm actually here.
i'm too afraid to tell anyone. i don't know what they'll say. i know they'll judge me.
good news is, i haven't cut once today. but i really wanted to.
you know, God planned you since before the earth was created. He wouldnt have created you if you werent valuable. you have a purpose in life. once you find what God has made you to do, you will feel valued. in the meantime, you have come to the right place, because NONE of us here are going to judge you.
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Originally Posted by Crandell you know, God planned you since before the earth was created. He wouldnt have created you if you werent valuable. you have a purpose in life. once you find what God has made you to do, you will feel valued. in the meantime, you have come to the right place, because NONE of us here are going to judge you. Amen! If you have something you want to talk about, feel free to start a thread in Advice or PM somebody (if you don't know who to PM, just start a thread asking for one ). I don't know too much about this so I can't really recommend myself for giving any advice, but there will be others here who would be quite happy to help you. I don't think anyone is going to judge you; they might be blunt at times, but people just want to help
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hey. you can PM me if you want to talk..i've been there. and i don't judge i promise.
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Originally Posted by HolyRockJfreak that's great advice.....
I agree.
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I'm sure this was already said somewhere, but I would have to say the best advice for this topic would be prayer. I haven't cut since March 5, when I was saved, but I have wanted to so badly. The main reason I haven't is because I'm in the safest seat in the house, God's arms. Every time I'm tempted to do something harmful to myself I flee the temptation and pray about it. Or when I found out about a friend cutting or feeling suicidal I pray my heart out for them, even when I'm tired and not in the mood.
Advil may help outside scratches and aches, but prayer keeps the soul alive.
God Bless,
xcx
p.s. it was a great advice thingy though. I just felt that prayer should be thrown out there.