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Hey guys! I have a friend who's having a really hard time getting over a girl that he likes, but doesn't want to like, for various reasons. I've run out of my own suggestions, so I'm looking for some of yours. If you've been there, how did you do it?
Thanks.
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Originally Posted by beth1447 Hey guys! I have a friend who's having a really hard time getting over a girl that he likes, but doesn't want to like, for various reasons. I've run out of my own suggestions, so I'm looking for some of yours. If you've been there, how did you do it?
Thanks. Give it time.
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Ok, I'm going to get a lot of flak for this, but it's worked for me, mostly:
Focus yourself on liking someone else. Once you feel as though you're starting to like her instead of the original girl, then focus on someone else. You shouldn't have to lean quite so far for the second girl. Keep doing this until you only have to 'lean' towards someone a little bit to get over the last person.
To answer the questions: no, it's not using people - it should take only a few hours, and none of them have to know that you're doing it, which itself is really only playing with your emotions, not their's.
If, however, that doesn't work, focus instead on not liking the person. It sucks, it's harder, but block every warm fuzzy feeling you get when you see them or think of them. Shun those reactions.
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Originally Posted by OctaviusIII Ok, I'm going to get a lot of flak for this, but it's worked for me, mostly:
Focus yourself on liking someone else. Once you feel as though you're starting to like her instead of the original girl, then focus on someone else. You shouldn't have to lean quite so far for the second girl. Keep doing this until you only have to 'lean' towards someone a little bit to get over the last person.
To answer the questions: no, it's not using people - it should take only a few hours, and none of them have to know that you're doing it, which itself is really only playing with your emotions, not their's.
If, however, that doesn't work, focus instead on not liking the person. It sucks, it's harder, but block every warm fuzzy feeling you get when you see them or think of them. Shun those reactions.
Not a good idea. The risk of rebound disaster is too high. I would say pull back, give yourself time and distance to heal. Avoid this person.
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Don't dwell on her. If you sit and think to yourself, "oh, this girl is so great, but I don't want to like her.. but I do like her! but I shouldn't.. I don't want too..." Yeah, if you're being like that, you're just gonna make it worse. Just go on with your life and don't even think about it.
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Originally Posted by beth1447 Hey guys! I have a friend who's having a really hard time getting over a girl that he likes, but doesn't want to like, for various reasons. I've run out of my own suggestions, so I'm looking for some of yours. If you've been there, how did you do it?
Thanks. I agree with Bob, he shouldn't overdwell on her, it's not healthy, and If there friends it wouldn't be right for him to avoid her, but like Inked in Blood said, give it time, sometimes that's the only thing that will heal it, but what he can do is try not to worry about it too much, and try to not focus on her, or just focus on her as just a friend.