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guyz...in school...i am a person who seems happy-go-lucky...
i always try to help others stay up....keep them happy...and a lot of itmes...that's jsut a shell...just a mask from what i really feel...
i feel like i'm gonna break inside...
it's bad, i celebrate that i make it a week without one of my "breakdowns"
i had a breakdown today......and it hurts...BAD.......
i'm the son of 2 state troopers...and trust me...i know i can't win, but when i breakdown...they have to use all their might just to hold me down.....i kick and cry..and just melt away....and after i'm done...and they finally let me up...i'm in tears...i feel like i'm just a big problem...and i dunno what to do...
when i breakdown.......it's like another being takes me over....and i can't control it...
for the record i don't do drugs...and i frown upon neone who duz...
i'm currently seeing a therapist...and i dunno if she's helping...
if neone has ne advice for me...it woudl be nice
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Originally Posted by Sparky11080 guyz...in school...i am a person who seems happy-go-lucky...
i always try to help others stay up....keep them happy...and a lot of itmes...that's jsut a shell...just a mask from what i really feel...
i feel like i'm gonna break inside...
it's bad, i celebrate that i make it a week without one of my "breakdowns"
i had a breakdown today......and it hurts...BAD.......
i'm the son of 2 state troopers...and trust me...i know i can't win, but when i breakdown...they have to use all their might just to hold me down.....i kick and cry..and just melt away....and after i'm done...and they finally let me up...i'm in tears...i feel like i'm just a big problem...and i dunno what to do...
when i breakdown.......it's like another being takes me over....and i can't control it...
for the record i don't do drugs...and i frown upon neone who duz...
i'm currently seeing a therapist...and i dunno if she's helping...
if neone has ne advice for me...it woudl be nice i actually just had a breakdown today..
i would suggest that you take off that mask. show them who you are. don't pretend to be someone who you aren't. can you talk to your parents about this? tell them what they do isn't helping? i think it's good you are seeing a therapist. hopefully she will help.
i wish i could help more than i do.
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wow...this sounds EXACTLY like what I went through...it's hard now..but it gets better. you may feel like theres no one in the world that could help you, or make you feel better, and you seem like a AWESOME! person, trying to help everyone else is a big burden, i know. but never the less, keep your head up, things will get better I promise. Now, I dunno what to tell you to do about your break downs, although i get them myself, but while your not having a break down, pray, and worship. thank god for that strength that you have at that very moment.
Things will get easy, and you'll grow stronger. PM me anytime. I'll do everything I can to help!
Much Love.
Aubrey.
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I totally agree with Aubrey, Nicely put I might add.
Things will get easier, just look to the sky.
Remember you have those "breakdowns" for a reason...god wants you to look to HIM for answers. this will help you grow in him, and indeed, in the future, become a stronger, better person.
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While "taking off your mask" is good, don't let that idea stand as an excuse to not be happy-go-lucky, helpful and encouraging. That is what we are called to be. But you have to stop relying on yourself for the source of that happiness.
I would say that while therapists are not God and cannot in and of themselves solve our problems, God does delight in using that which he has created for its proper purpose- in this case a therapist. But it would depend on what kind of therapist this is. Knowing your emotions is one thing, but employing methods that operate on the assumption that we are self-sufficient in maintaining our emotions is entirely another.
What is needed here is support, spiritually. An environment where you are steeped in God's word, in prayer, in praise and in enthusiasm. Find a good church- not a happy church, but one that teaches things that you need to hear (whether those things be comfortable and uplifting or challenging and convicting), and helps enable you to rely full on God- because that is what you must do.
If your parents are Christians also, have a talk with them and encourage them to pray for you right then and there. Read your bible daily and meditate on the words. In short? Look to God for holistic healing. Not just a stop to your breakdowns.
To plug a hole is to transfer that pressure to another weak spot in the piping. But to replace the piping altogether... that's a good idea.
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Originally Posted by H.M. Murdock While "taking off your mask" is good, don't let that idea stand as an excuse to not be happy-go-lucky, helpful and encouraging. That is what we are called to be. But you have to stop relying on yourself for the source of that happiness.
I would say that while therapists are not God and cannot in and of themselves solve our problems, God does delight in using that which he has created for its proper purpose- in this case a therapist. But it would depend on what kind of therapist this is. Knowing your emotions is one thing, but employing methods that operate on the assumption that we are self-sufficient in maintaining our emotions is entirely another.
What is needed here is support, spiritually. An environment where you are steeped in God's word, in prayer, in praise and in enthusiasm. Find a good church- not a happy church, but one that teaches things that you need to hear (whether those things be comfortable and uplifting or challenging and convicting), and helps enable you to rely full on God- because that is what you must do.
If your parents are Christians also, have a talk with them and encourage them to pray for you right then and there. Read your bible daily and meditate on the words. In short? Look to God for holistic healing. Not just a stop to your breakdowns.
To plug a hole is to transfer that pressure to another weak spot in the piping. But to replace the piping altogether... that's a good idea. I think Murdock hit right on on a lot of stuff. You can't rely on you for your own source of happiness, all it leads to is breakdown, we aren't strong enough on our own. In life we need two things to make our lives happy, we need God and people, but ourselves cannot make ourselves happy.
What is making you feel terrible and breakdown is something in your mentality that is making you feel bad, and you won't feel better until you fix your mentality. You sound like a nice guy, but sad. What I found for myself is that if I am lacking on faith, hope, love, or joy, then I will end up feeling bad. My guess is your missing joy, and for that you need to look mainly to God for that, you can't by yourself make yourself happy.
Did that make sense? or do you want me to further explain, if so just say so. God Bless!