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i've got a story and then a question. there's this girl i like that i've liked for a long time. we're really good friends and have been for like 2 years. it's kinda weird cause i've been really good friends with her brother who's two years older than me. i became like family over at their house and so got to know her too. i moved out of town like an hour away but still went to see them on the weekends alot. after a while i found out she likes me too. we talk alot, like every night. and we talked about dating and decided to kinda go out but not put a title on it. so now her brother (my friend) moved to away and i've been back to their house once. since then she's said she dosn't think we're ment to date. i said ok but i still really like her, but i don't wanna push it and hurt our friendship.
ok after all that anyone have any advice?
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right now, i would say just try to just be friends.. ive had some similar experience with this girl and her cousin that lived with them i was closer to him first then me and her talked alot and kinda now are going out just going slow and all, so just try to be her friend and see why she feels that way i guess
well, good luck
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Pressuring her into something will lead you into hurt in the end and you will feel like a moron in the end.
Be her friend, if she comes around, she comes around. Don't sit and wait for her to come around, just be you.
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yeah...it's hard though cause i don't know really what she feels or thinks...we've both been really busy lately so we hav'nt talked in like 2 weeks and since i live like an hour away i can't do much better than phone or email most of the time. thanks for the advice though guys.
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Originally Posted by BikerBoy yeah...it's hard though cause i don't know really what she feels or thinks...we've both been really busy lately so we hav'nt talked in like 2 weeks and since i live like an hour away i can't do much better than phone or email most of the time. thanks for the advice though guys.
You don't have to know what she feels or thinks. That's not your responsibility. If you sit there and try to figure out what she is thinking or feeling, you're going to waste your time.
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Originally Posted by BikerBoy but i don't wanna push it and hurt our friendship.
ok after all that anyone have any advice? Yeah, don't push it and hurt your friendship.
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One of the cardinal rules of dating: Don't date your friend's sister! (or, for the girls: don't date your brother's friend)
But in this situation, sister or no sister, I'd ask her why she thinks that you two aren't meant to date -- but make it understood that it is just for the sake of clarity, not that you are trying to get back together with her. Then go from there.
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Originally Posted by BikerBoy yeah...it's hard though cause i don't know really what she feels or thinks...we've both been really busy lately so we hav'nt talked in like 2 weeks and since i live like an hour away i can't do much better than phone or email most of the time. thanks for the advice though guys. Yeah I agree with what Ryan Akers and patrick and everyone else has said, don't hurt the friendship that is the most important thing, and if you want to pursue something with her, be honest about it and ask her how she feels, and if she's a good friend she'll understand.