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I am a 19 year old whose father died 2.5 yrs ago, my mother basically disowned me, and i am nothing, i am left with nothing, i don't belong where ever i go. in my "family" i am nothing but a screw up and will amount to nothing in my entire life. i cannot do a thing right anymore. i have nothing and now it is finally catching up to me and it makes me sick to my stomach and bad thoughts come into mind, and i don't know how to react to being on the bottom of the food chain in my fam. it sux i kno, i just wish there was somethin or someway that i could get over this. now my grandparents are even at the point of disowning me. i can't tolerate anymore of this. a few other problems include no money, no car, no insurance, no car insurance, and i need to go get tested for brain tumors, and many levels of depression. what are my options left at?
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God.
Philippians 3:8-11
Yet indeed I also count all things loss for the excellence of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord, for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and count them as rubbish, that I may gain Christ and be found in Him, not having my own righteousness, which is from the law, but that which is through faith in Christ, the righteousness which is from God by faith; that I may know Him and the power of His resurrection, and the fellowship of His sufferings, being conformed to His death, if, by any means, I may attain to the resurrection from the dead.

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The only thing that really matters is God. In God alone can one find peace no matter what happens in this life.
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i am very happy with my Man, but mentally i am just struggling cuz the pain and pressure of everything goin on around me. i just can't do anything to please anyone, and the constant negativity goin on around is indeed affecting everything about me, including me at work and in public, i am startin to become a loner again,and i don't want this again or ever, it is at the point where i worry about myself being alone, and that is about the whole time i am at home because i do not leave my room. i do only for food, drink, and bathroom. this truly sux
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I feel like I'm being cold in my response here but I also feel obligated to speak what I believe is right.
Spend time in God's Word. Spend lots of time in God's Word. Spend lots and lots of time in God's Word. Spend lots and lots and lots of time in God's Word.
Paul's comfort was in knowing Christ and Him crucified. Our knowledge of Christ is found in the Bible.
Perhaps you need to START leaving your room. Couselling (particularly with a pastor/Christian psychologist) could be very helpful.
Life may suck at times but amazing growth can occur in times of distress.
James 1:2-6
My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing. If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him. But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind.
I become more convinced every day that God is the ONLY source of peace. God will bless you if you read His Word, I guarantee it.
Again, I do not mean to sound cold but I think that anything I could say would fall terribly short of what God can say.
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I am a 19 year old whose father died 2.5 yrs ago Sorry to hear about your dad, but it's part of life. i just wish there was somethin or someway that i could get over this. Bob has it right, God is the closest relative we have, talk to him. i can't tolerate anymore of this. We are never given more than we can handle, it just seems like it. i need to go get tested for brain tumors, and many levels of depression. Your in my prayers. (try including the family with your ideas) sgary
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Wow...
I can't imagine how lonely and scared you must be feeling.
It must have been devastating to lose your Dad when you were so young.
I think the advice to read the Bible is excellent.
Praying is equally important. Find a time that is very quiet and spend a few minutes one-on-one with God.
I am assuming that you are a Christian. Are you part of a local church? If so, the pastor may be able to help you some. (Be careful... there are some real knucklehead pastors out there who give their own opinion more than they give the word of God).
Do you have a job?
Do you go to school?
How did your Mom disown you? And why do you think that?
Also... is there anyway to repair that relationship with you rMom?
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hey...just wanted to let you know that i am going through the same internal pain and if you ever need someone to talk to about it feel free to pm me or anything. it always helps to have someone to talk to and someone who will listen. and while i agree that reading the Bible and praying are necessary too, sometimes it just feels comforting to have an earthly person there for you...don't hesitate i'm here.
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Wow, i am so sorry to hear about that . Dont feel like you are worthless. God loves you more than you could possiblily ever know. All of this is just a season, keep your head up. If God is for you, who can be against you?
I love ya, dont try to figure out why all of these things are happening, that will just drive u nuts.
I know it sometimes dosn't feel like it, but God loves you so much, you cannot even imagine the love he has for you.
Dont let what other people say to you bother you, For example: "That is a part of life, Deal with it". God loves you, and i have no intention of pointing my finger at you.
God Bless
Asher
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I am truly sorry to hear about your current situation. However, don't forget that there's always someone out there that has it worse. I know it's hard, but focus on what blessings you do have and don't give up. You've been given good advice so far. I hope things get better.
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Do you live with your mom, still, btw? You say you stay in your room. I'm imagining you do that because you live with someone or some people you don't get along with.
I know you've been through a really rough time in your life. I don't think anyone will give you any advice to make everything better. But maybe some of the advice will help you deal with the situation, and have a more positive attitude.
Are you a Christian? The secret to overcoming a lot of things you are facing are found in the Christian faith. Joy is one of the fruits of the Spirit. That doesn't mean everything will be okay. One verse says "We joy in our sufferings." The apostles sufferred a lot for the message they preached.
Something I think that will help you is learning to tame your mind. II Corinthians 10 says to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. There are a lot of thoughts that we are not supposed to entertain. Depression is a lot more complicated than just not thinking things depressing, but thoughts area part of it. If you have some thought about how bad you are, then don't entertain it. Personally, I think that devils can attack people by giving them depressing thoughts. If you entertain these kinds of thoughts, it's like cutting your heart to pieces with a razor blade.
Be careful what you think and what you say. Always be saying words of thanksgiving. One of my wife's cousins often does this. She is always thanking God for one thing or another, and it is very encouraging, not only to herself, but to others. She's gone through some rough times, like when her husband fell through the roof he was fixing at their house and they were going through financial difficulties, a miscarriage, and other problems. One of their children was kidnapped and they never saw him again many years before I met them. But she doesn't sit around depressed thinking about these things all the time.
God understands that you are depressed. Psalm 42 is a good Psalm to pray to the Lord when you are depressed. It expresses the singer's depression and offers a solution-- hoping in the Lord. When you are depressed, pray and give it to the Lord. I Peter 5 says to cast all your cares on the Lord, because he cares for you. Think of it like this. Take all your cares and worries, and hand them up to the Lord when you pray. Don't worry about them any more. You gave them to the Lord. Jesus said you aren't supposed to worry about what you will eat or drink or what you will wear. God provide for the birds of the air, and He will provide for us. Of course, we need to do our part like work like the Bible teaches us.
So don't worry about not having insurance. Your health is in God's hands. God is able to heal you. If you sit around worrying about having brain cancer, will worrying make you well? No. But if you spend time in prayer, building yourself up by reading the word of God, getting your heart straightened with God and men, you may be healed if you turn out to have cancer.
To be right with God, we need to be reconciled by having our sins forgiven through repentance and faith in Jesus Christ. If you haven't been baptized with water, get baptized. If you have something you haven't repented of, repent. You want everything to be right between you and God so you can enjoy all He has to offer, love, joy, peace, etc. The advice to pray is on target. The advice to read the word is on target. Something else I'd like to add is to also _do_ the word of God.
Jesus taught us that if someone has something against us, we need to go and make things right with that person and be reconciled to that person. If your brother sins against you, you need to go talk to that person about it. If you have a problem with your mother, you need to do what you can to reconcile with her. If you have bitterness or unforgiveness toward anyone, then you need to forgive that person.
I know a man who had cancer when he was very young, maybe in his late teens or early 20-- brain cancer if I remember correctly. He thought he got it because he had a lot of bitterness, including bitterness toward his mother.
I'm not saying that is necessarily always the case. In one case, Jesus made it very clear that a certain man was not born blind because of his own sin or his parents' sin. However, he told one man he healed to go and sin no more lest a worse thing come upon him. Also, James 5 seems to indicate that one of the reasons someone can be sick is because they have sin that needs to be confessed. I'm not saying that is what is going on in your case, but it is something to consider if you want to make sure that everything is right with God. If you are sick, it is a good idea to make things right with other people anyway.
My brother showed me some VHS tapes from a Christian psychiatrist (or was a psychologist?) named John Sanford who talked about how being bitter toward people and judging them, particularly your parents, could hurt you in life. He told about a woman whose dad was an alcoholic and she kept marrying and divorce guys who because alcoholics after they married her, and explained what happened.
If you live with your mother, do not spend all your time in your room. Try to build up a relationship with her. Talk to her. Don't lock the room and turn up the stereo, if that's what's going on.
Don't believe those ideas going through your head about your selfworth. God created you and you have great selfworth. If God cared enough about you to send His Son to die for your sins, that says a lot about your intrinsic worth. You are worth as much as all those people you know who don't sitting around kicking themselves telling themselves that they aren't worth anything.
Just as a practical summary here. First of all, make sure you are right with the Lord, that you are confident that He has forgiven your sins because of your faith in Christ. Then obey Jesus' teachings. Make things right with other people. Pray. Read the Bible. Spend time alone with God praying, singing praise songs, praying the Psalms and other scriptures to Him, and things like that. The Psalms are good for getting out of depression if you believe what you read.
Oh, yeah, when you are blue, read Psalm 42.
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One thing my friends always tell me is that, when you go through pain in life, it becomes new ways that God can use you in the future. People say you don't have a future? God's word goes against that. He says "I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you, and not to harm you. plans to give you a hope and a future" that's in jeramia.
God ALSO says that He works all things out for the good of them that love him, and are called according to His purpose. That is you, and that means that every pain you go through now, is more building blocks for God to use you.

Are you plugged in at a church? Get involved with other Christians as much as you can. That often helps situations. Perhaps there are ministry oportunitys you could become involved in.

I hope you find the strangth to come out of this on the right side.