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okay so my problem is, i get jelous extremely easily. i hate this. over the slightest thing i will get jelous, not really jelous, just a small little tad of jelousy hangin around. i never mention that im jelous or anything, because i know its entirely ridiculous and i try to ignore it, but my girlfriend will always know. i really dont like this and i try my best not to be, what can i do about this?
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Originally Posted by rockon4l1fe okay so my problem is, i get jelous extremely easily. i hate this. over the slightest thing i will get jelous, not really jelous, just a small little tad of jelousy hangin around. i never mention that im jelous or anything, because i know its entirely ridiculous and i try to ignore it, but my girlfriend will always know. i really dont like this and i try my best not to be, what can i do about this?
learn to trust before it's to late......
i am the same way so it's hard for me to give advice on this...because I have of yet, not come up with a way to get out of my jealous states. They aren't as bad as they used to be, but still, jealousy is jealousy, there is no way around it.
I will share 2 things you can try...that have worked for me...
When you find yourself getting jealous over something, take a walk and think about what you're getting jealous over and just think of how stupid it probably is...and other times just shut the heck up and LISTEN...just watch in wonder of God's creation and wallow in the fact that God is jealous over US, but yet what do we do??? It will cause you to trust her and others more, it has helped me IMMENSLY
Second...Remind yourself of all the times she was faithful and that she has given you NO REASONS to doubt her (unless she has, then maybe you should think if you're in a right relationship). Remember everything she has told you and how she feels about you and trust that. Or, if it's geting to bad. Maybe God is trying to wake you up and is saying you should take a break before it gets to bad and you lose a best friend. Unfourtanetly I have lost more than 5 friends because of something like this. So be VERY careful, and if you find yourself not trusting her, then you should question the relationship.
Also, go through 1st Corinthians 13 and read what love REALLY is...maybe do some research on the words (love is kind, love is patient, love does not envy)
so there's my 2 cents, I hope it helps some...
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thanks for your help, ill be sure to try those things. i do trust her. thats why i know these thoughts are so ridiculous.
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Originally Posted by raggedyandy7 learn to trust before it's to late......
i am the same way so it's hard for me to give advice on this...because I have of yet, not come up with a way to get out of my jealous states. They aren't as bad as they used to be, but still, jealousy is jealousy, there is no way around it.
I will share 2 things you can try...that have worked for me...
When you find yourself getting jealous over something, take a walk and think about what you're getting jealous over and just think of how stupid it probably is...and other times just shut the heck up and LISTEN...just watch in wonder of God's creation and wallow in the fact that God is jealous over US, but yet what do we do??? It will cause you to trust her and others more, it has helped me IMMENSLY
Second...Remind yourself of all the times she was faithful and that she has given you NO REASONS to doubt her (unless she has, then maybe you should think if you're in a right relationship). Remember everything she has told you and how she feels about you and trust that. Or, if it's geting to bad. Maybe God is trying to wake you up and is saying you should take a break before it gets to bad and you lose a best friend. Unfourtanetly I have lost more than 5 friends because of something like this. So be VERY careful, and if you find yourself not trusting her, then you should question the relationship.
Also, go through 1st Corinthians 13 and read what love REALLY is...maybe do some research on the words (love is kind, love is patient, love does not envy)
so there's my 2 cents, I hope it helps some... That is definitely worth more than 2 cents, that is great advice, I agree sometimes we just need to think through exactly what we're doing and why. Sometimes when we just think it over we can correct ourselves.
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try talking to the girl about you getting jealous, if she's your girlfriend, then it'd be easier because she should be aware of these things, if not then you have no right to say anything. but if she's a good friend of yours, let her know, be vulnerable to her. and also, talk to the guys or whatever that's making you feel this way, dont be afraid to tell others your emotions.