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Hey ya'll -
I guess this is aimed more at the girls for obvious reasons -
Did you feel funny about taking your husband's name?
I have mixed feelings.
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With a name like Coffee, it has to be good.
Nope, not at all. I saw it as an honor and privilege to take on my husbands name. There was a thread about this in GD a while ago that had some excellent points to it. Let me go see if i can dig it up.
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HERE is the thread. It has a really good discussion on changing your name or not.
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I'm the same about it as Rach.... I couldn't wait!

We married and became one.... the name change proves it in the physical.

I don't want the world thinking my husband and I are not married but live together partners.... and can you imagine you children trying to explain why their mom and dad have differant surnames or trying to decided what surname your children get.
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Originally Posted by Nomes Hey ya'll -
I guess this is aimed more at the girls for obvious reasons -
Did you feel funny about taking your husband's name?
I have mixed feelings. I didn't think twice about taking Chris' name. I was proud and excited to do it... and it was such a thrill the first few months getting used to being called "Mrs Deacon"
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Thanks for the replies girls. That other thread was very interesting Rach!
I'm so excited to be marrying Brad. But I have a few issues with taking his name. It's stupid though, I've never like the idea of keeping my maiden name, but now that it's come down to it, it makes me feel strange to take on his name.
The point is that it isn't the fact that I'm taking Brad's name that is the problem so much. I mean, I want to be my own person, not known purely because I'm married to Brad. I'll get over that fairly easily I Think
The bigger thing that was bothering me, was that I'm taking his fathers name: not a very savoury man. I am trading the name of my father, who has be so very good to me and my family - for Brad's father, who was abusive to his family.
His (Brad's) mother kept his (brad's fathers') name, but to this day is very bitter at his mention - I'm taking that on.
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Nomes, I understand your feelings. I always thought I'd change my name no problem. But when it came down to it, there was a weirdness about losing my maiden name. Suddenly it felt like a part of me that I couldn't let go. So I didn't. I kept it as a second middle name and went ahead and took my husband's name. I did feel like it would be even weirder to not take his name at all, so now I just have four names. I considered hyphenating, but decided that was too complicated. But I like what I did, it makes me feel like an extension of my old self rather than a completely new, foreign person.
I hope that helps some.
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Yeah, thanks Lori.
I think it would be weirder to not take his name aswell.
I can't add another middle name, I already have two. The funny thing is....I seem to be attached to the name SMITH! I mean, Smith! It's boring and common and I have always looked forward to getting rid of it!
We had a nice talk last night, and I realised something that was giving me problems, partly. Right now, Brad lives with his Mum. Whenever I go to his house, I sort of become just another one of her children. And without even thinking on it too much, I decided (somehow) that that's what it would be like after we're married.
But the fact is, he is leaving his (father) and mother, and I am leaving my father and mother to become joined to my husband. We are a new name, even though it's still his last name - yes there are families joined to both of us, but we're seperate. And will be living in a house of our own.
It still feels a bit funny, but I feel a lot better about it now
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I’m pretty attached to the name Smith too my aunt solved that problem by marrying another Smith not related of course. We may have a little hillbilly in us but not that much..
Peace
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Originally Posted by smitty2622 I’m pretty attached to the name Smith too my aunt solved that problem by marrying another Smith not related of course. We may have a little hillbilly in us but not that much..
Peace That would be just plain wrong hyphenated.
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At least she didn't have to go through the hassle, _let me say that again_, HASSLE of changing her name.
Ugh...really, it was just the social security office that caused me much grief. Of course, what do they ever do right?