Question:
ok i met this really cool girl and we like eachother alot well some stuff went down in my youth group my youth pastor is one of those pastors thats really in courtship and thats fine but like he pushes it on us and stuff like now since im dating he said ok your off the worship team and im like what.well he hasnt kicked me cause he cant cause i never signed nothing noone agreed with it or anything and like my sister is worship leader and she was dating for 8 months and he didnt say anything and im dating for 2 weeks and he finds out and gets upset and well this sunday he sent out a new form for the student leadership team saying no dating for 1 year while ur on my leadership team,witch by the way wasnt on the original agreement.so im like ok im not signing this its stupid and i was fine with not being on the student leadership team anymore but then he came out with this other thing that u have to me on the leadership team to be on the worship team now.and so that means im gone.but like my sister isnt signing it the othere guitar player isnt signing it um one of the male singers isnt signing it and like none of the female vocalists are signing it.so that means hes losing his whole team,and anthor thing is he feels that when ur in a relationship that it takes away your focus on God and that u dont focus on him,witch isnt true if anything my realtionship has gotten better.cause when u care for someone u think about ur life more and do whats right and thats what im doing.but what i h8 about this whole thing is my passion is worship and he's taking that away,and like my parents tried to resolve it with him but he has this thing were if anyone is dating there going to have sex no matter what and there going to take things to far,but then he tells is were the generation to turn this world arounnd but then were going to fail liek everyone else.i think what he should do is instead of teaching courtship he should teach purity in relationships.and i guess what im saying is im really upset about all of this and like he said id have to break up with my gf if i wanted to stay on and my mom and dad are like if he tells u he doesnt like her anymore he can be back and there like"no cause we know he still likes her so no that wouldnt work".so im thinknig about jsut not playing and like still going to church and stuff but starting a band on that side and doing worhsip and our own music stuff,and another thing thats funny is the adult team doesnt have any of these rules.so what do u guys think i should do?
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Wow... Not only your situation, but it was rather difficult to read that... For next time, grammar is your friend...
Talking about your situation:
Your worship leader/pastor/whatever seems to be a bit misinformed on this. The problem is that you can't do diddly squat. He's in power, and he can do this if he wants. There's no "evidence" you can bring him that you won't have sex with your girlfriend. There's no statistics you can show him that'll convince him. He's opinionated. From what I've read, if he thinks it's true, it's true beyond a doubt (to him).
I can't say I know what to do, except pray. This could be God saying to go to a different place to worship. It could also be that God wants you to fight this somehow, and get back on the team. I don't know. Only God does. You should pray about it, and see what He tells you.
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ok thnx ill pray some more and i have but hey praying never killed anyone.
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wow......thats hard to read.........
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I wouldn't suggest fighting it to get back on the team. That could send a message to others that it's ok to challenge authorities over them. Authorities which we are biblically commanded to obey.
Honestly, (and this is just me), I would have signed the paper and walked out the door without so much as a word. (I would have also begun looking for a different church that doesn't impose such biased, non-biblical rules on me). But then again, I have been known to be a hot-head from time to time. And this may not be very realistic right now.