Question:
Okay, this is probably the typical thread on here, but I haven't really found anything in the forums that really relate to me, so here I am.
Well, there's this guy-friend of mine that I've "liked"(and I do not use the term lightly) for about a year. We used to be quite close, but we haven't really talked in a while, and I feel kinda bad about it. Anyway, today was his birthday, and I was going to ask him out today, but he totally blew me off. And I really want to know what's going on in his life, you know? So there's that. The worst part is, I can't even talk to my sister or my best friend about it and I don't even know why. I just feel really weird. I'm sixteen and there's a lot going on in my life that most people that are in my life don't even know about, so I guess I just closed myself off or something.
And, well, there is something else, I suppose. I sort of wrote this same guy letters last year, because, I dunno, I am INSANE. But they were really mushy and junk, and I totally regret it now, because I can see in hindsight that I really, really should not have done it. But the worst part is, he never got them, because his mother intercepted them, and so now she has, like, this huge secret that she holds over my head, and she probably hates me. I don't know, however, because she won't talk to me.
So this is where I stand. You can hug me, flame me, tell me that I really AM insane, or whatever, I really don't care, I just wanted to see what everybody else thought. So thanks, whatever your reply will be.
Ciao.
Answer:
Is there anything you're looking for advice on? Just asking because that really is the spirit behind this forum.
I guess I'll just give some unsolicited advice. It may be best to forget any type of romtic relationship between the two of you. (assuming you haven't already). You seem to be steadily growing apart as it is. Also, could you really go through your relationship with him with his mother holding this secret over your head with the vile things she did to obtain it?
Answer:
It may help to talk to your sister or best friend about it. I know you don't want to, but it really may help. Sometimes it helps to just get things out. I know you may be embarrassed about his mom reading your letters, but you did nothing wrong.
Here's something you could try. Write another letter to him and say, "No, I will not go out with you! Stop trying to kiss me!" Let his mom see THAT one.
Ok, that was a joke; please don't do that.
But, seriously, it seems like the only thing to do may be to let him go.
Answer:
Originally Posted by Chris Is there anything you're looking for advice on? Just asking because that really is the spirit behind this forum.
I guess I'll just give some unsolicited advice. It may be best to forget any type of romtic relationship between the two of you. (assuming you haven't already). You seem to be steadily growing apart as it is. Also, could you really go through your relationship with him with his mother holding this secret over your head with the vile things she did to obtain it?
Id ignore the mothers actions. To be honest, I had the mother who was worse than that. She did that to my older brother, only she penned response letters to his girlfriend at the time...
The growing apart thing is huge though. Thats where the crux of the matter lies.
Answer:
Thanks for all the advice. My question here was really, "What do I do?".
I do like bob's idea about sending the letter , but I won't do that. I guess I'll just wait around and see where God leads, you know? I should've done that in the first place anyway.
Well, thanks again, and God bless,
Bek
Answer:
Guess what? Well, Sunday I talked to Mitch (the guy I wrote about) and everything was great (even though his mother was hovering over my right shoulder) and...he asked me out! With his mother right there! I still have not told him about the letters, though that will come in time. So, just wanted to let everyone know.
Peace,
Bek