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ok i know that making out almost all the time leads to sex and such,well when one is trying to not have sex before marriage and the guy and the girl kiss.what is considered making out?
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That expression is used for anything from hugging to oral sex.
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Originally Posted by bread man That expression is used for anything from hugging to oral sex.
what i dont get it srry.
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I've always heard it mean "French kissing," using your tongue. Others may think of it meaning oral sex, but I personally haven't heard it used as that.
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What they're saying is that the term "making out" does not mean the same thing to everyone.
However, this thread just really confuses. If you're planning to not have sex until you're married, then the goal is to avoid situations that tempt you to have sex. You don't need to have a definition of "making out" to do that. If kissing is too far for you, don't kiss. If extended times of hugging, kissing, and cuddling are too far for you, don't do it. The Bible says to "flee youthful lusts" (2 Timothy 2:22) not to make sure you don't make out with anyone.
Also, every kind of romantic intimacy eventually points to sex. If left unchecked, sight will lead to touch, which will lead to more touch, which will lead to kissing and hugging, which will lead to more kissing and hugging, which will lead to sex. The idea is to know what's too much for you. No matter WHAT you're doing, you have to be careful that it doesn't go too far. There's a lot more to it than making sure you don't "make out."
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Originally Posted by guitarjockey111 ok i know that making out almost all the time leads to sex and such,well when one is trying to not have sex before marriage and the guy and the girl kiss.what is considered making out?
lust leads to sexual sin that is physically manifested. Making out generally refers to french kissing, but amongst the younger set it seems to refer to oral sex more often than not. What is or is not making out is pointless in marking relational boundaries.
Im going to put a plug in here. Me and my wife first kissed at the altar. The kiss was not awkward, and our wedding night was not awkward. I mean we both had a lot to learn (as you should).
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You don't go into a bank and keep saying to yourself, "I'm not going to rob this bank. I'm not going to rob this bank. I'm not going to rob this bank." Instead you don't give it a second thought and simply enjoy your banking.
In the same way, one should not approach a dating relationship with the mindset, "We're not going to have sex. We're not going to have sex. We're not going to have sex." What that does is keep sex at the forefront of the relationship, and it becomes about not having sex instead of getting to know and enjoying the other person, the whole person. Even worse, always thinking about not having sex makes sex the #1 thing on both your minds, and that creates pressure.
Ultimately it boils down to respecting the other person and valueing them more than your own (often selfish) desires. Just enjoy her company and getting to know her without the "I'm not going to rob the bank" mindset. Believe me, it'll work itself out.
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Originally Posted by Epaphras You don't go into a bank and keep saying to yourself, "I'm not going to rob this bank. I'm not going to rob this bank. I'm not going to rob this bank." Instead you don't give it a second thought and simply enjoy your banking.
That was the funniest scenario I've ever seen used as an analogy. Kudos.
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Originally Posted by Epaphras You don't go into a bank and keep saying to yourself, "I'm not going to rob this bank. I'm not going to rob this bank. I'm not going to rob this bank." Instead you don't give it a second thought and simply enjoy your banking.
In the same way, one should not approach a dating relationship with the mindset, "We're not going to have sex. We're not going to have sex. We're not going to have sex." What that does is keep sex at the forefront of the relationship, and it becomes about not having sex instead of getting to know and enjoying the other person, the whole person. Even worse, always thinking about not having sex makes sex the #1 thing on both your minds, and that creates pressure.
Ultimately it boils down to respecting the other person and valueing them more than your own (often selfish) desires. Just enjoy her company and getting to know her without the "I'm not going to rob the bank" mindset. Believe me, it'll work itself out.
that was put really well man thnx and thnx to everyone else to for the posts before this.
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My friends think that I'm such a nerd for wanting to save pretty much everything that I have untill I'm married. Granted, they are Christians, and they are going to wait to have sex until their married(that's obvious) but what I'm talking about is kissing. I made a vow with God that I wouldn't kiss untill I'm at the altar. You must have heard the saying:"True loves first kiss..." That's my policy. Just a kiss, can lead to making out, making out can lead to as my friend Heidi would say, "...Close incounters with the unknown..."
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Originally Posted by matrix_reborn My friends think that I'm such a nerd for wanting to save pretty much everything that I have untill I'm married. Granted, they are Christians, and they are going to wait to have sex until their married(that's obvious) but what I'm talking about is kissing. I made a vow with God that I wouldn't kiss untill I'm at the altar. You must have heard the saying:"True loves first kiss..." That's my policy. Just a kiss, can lead to making out, making out can lead to as my friend Heidi would say, "...Close incounters with the unknown..." But this is just a case of concentrating on what you can't do. It's a very bad idea. It's how the serpent got Eve to eat the forbidden fruit. Just concentrate on living a life for God and, if you are truly earnest, the rest will follow.
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Originally Posted by Chris But this is just a case of concentrating on what you can't do. It's a very bad idea. It's how the serpent got Eve to eat the forbidden fruit. Just concentrate on living a life for God and, if you are truly earnest, the rest will follow.
You made a valid point. But with me it's more knowing what I don't want to do than concentrating what what I can't do. Because if I know, then the less of a chance it actually happening.