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Ok Im new here and heres my story.
I went to church all of my life, and I had a good relationship with god, i know he loves me and he looks out for me...
I remained a virgin untill I was 18, and I broke down and had relations with a man that I thought at the time i was going to marry, so I figured god would understand. I then got my heart broken and did the same thing with 3 other guys in a two year period. I was looking for love and a life partner....they all broke my heart...now at 22 I am in a great relationship with the man I am going to wed after I am done with college. I have slept with him and I have started to feel really guily lately. I feel like I am a bad person, when I am actually not, Im honest I dont drink, no drugs, I take care of my grandmother, and I am very sensitive and caring. I feel really bad, for having sex before marriage, and I am really scared that I am going to hell. If i could have taken back all of them I would, but I was young and still am young and really I didnt understand the severity of my sins. I keep doing it now, because i figure, hey if i have already commited this sin so many times Im already going to hell....
Im really scared..I dont think that I deserve to go to hell otherwise...
some one help me....i dont know what to do...
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Originally Posted by Rayvin400 Ok Im new here and heres my story.
I went to church all of my life, and I had a good relationship with god, i know he loves me and he looks out for me...
I remained a virgin untill I was 18, and I broke down and had relations with a man that I thought at the time i was going to marry, so I figured god would understand. I then got my heart broken and did the same thing with 3 other guys in a two year period. I was looking for love and a life partner....they all broke my heart...now at 22 I am in a great relationship with the man I am going to wed after I am done with college. I have slept with him and I have started to feel really guily lately. I feel like I am a bad person, when I am actually not, Im honest I dont drink, no drugs, I take care of my grandmother, and I am very sensitive and caring. I feel really bad, for having sex before marriage, and I am really scared that I am going to hell. If i could have taken back all of them I would, but I was young and still am young and really I didnt understand the severity of my sins. I keep doing it now, because i figure, hey if i have already commited this sin so many times Im already going to hell....
Im really scared..I dont think that I deserve to go to hell otherwise...
some one help me....i dont know what to do...
Doing that will not make you go to hell if you have asked God for forgiveness. It is not an unpardonable sin. You will not go to hell for it unless you never ask God for forgiveness. Please understand that.
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The Bible says that even one little lie causes you to be worthy of going to hell.And that is why God sent His Son to take your sins on Himself.If you go to God and repent of your sins the Bible says that "God is faithful and just to forgive you of all your sins." But that forgiveness only comes through true repentance.We cant earn Heaven on our own merits or good works because no matter how hard we try our sins will always out weigh our good works.God bless-Inked in Blood.
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Romans 5:6-11
When we were utterly helpless, Christ came at just the right time and died for us sinners. Now, no one is likely to die for a good person, though someone might be willing to die for a person who is especially good. But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners. And since we have been made right in God's sight by the blood of Christ, he will certainly save us from God's judgment. For since we were restored to friendship with God by the death of his Son while we were still his enemies, we will certainly be delivered from eternal punishment by his life. So now we can rejoice in our wonderful new relationship with God--all because of what our Lord Jesus Christ has done for us in making us friends of God.

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When Jesus died for you, He knew every sin you'd ever commit, but He did it anyway. He has forgiven all your sins: past, present, and future. If you trust in Him for your salvation, then you do not have to fear the flames of hell, you have already been delivered from them. Read the following verse (Jesus is talking):
John 5:24
I assure you, those who listen to my message and believe in God who sent me have eternal life. They will never be condemned for their sins, but they have already passed from death into life.
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Having premarital sex is sin.
Sin, any sin, puts us in Gods eyes as deserving of hell. You and I deserved hell and earned our position there far before the "big" sins of our lives. The disrespect, white lies, etc as kids was more than enough to put us there.
However, God be thanked that our place in heaven or hell is not up to us. If it were, we would all be toast. (pardon the hideous pun there) The thing is, your salvation cannot be based on your merit. You have had premarital sex by your admission, which is a sin.
Before you call me judgemental. I will say flat out that on my own merit I am a liar, a thief, a drunkard, and violent. However, the grace of God can forgive those sins in your life, as he has forgiven me. Every one of us here is a sinner. All of us on our own, deserve death.
Without Christ, you deserve death and hell. However, Christ died, and in his death took the punishment on himself for our sins. Now this is only of value to you if you put your faith in him.
There is on the practical level also the fact that biblically speaking, you need to stop the premarital sex. You feel guilty about this. To be honest, that is a good thing. Guilt is what can drive us to Christ, who is the only one who can remove the source of guilt.
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Ephesians 2:1-9:
1As for you, you were dead in your transgressions and sins,
2in which you used to live when you followed the ways of this world and of the ruler of the kingdom of the air, the spirit who is now at work in those who are disobedient.
3All of us also lived among them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our sinful nature[a] and following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by nature objects of wrath.
4But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy,
5made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved.
6And God raised us up with Christ and seated us with him in the heavenly realms in Christ Jesus,
7in order that in the coming ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness to us in Christ Jesus.
8For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—
9not by works, so that no one can boast.
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I have the same problem and it's the shame that comes with my sin. I need to constantly remind myself that I'm saved not because of anything that I've done but by the grace of God. THere's nothing I can do to make up for my mistakes adn neither can you. That's ok God knows that and he loves you and me the same, more than anything else in the whole world. He's interested in our relationship with him not our pursuit of perfection.
God always forgives us no matter how many time we say sorry. As long as were sincere he is faithful, he forgives, and he even FORGETS our sin! Please know that your not saved anything you've done or not done it's all by God's grace so embrace his grace and ask for forgiveness, and he'll love you just the same, with all his heart.
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Thank you all, Im going to have a talk with my boyfriend tonight....
hes not a christian so I dont know if he will understand,....
You guys are wonderful, thanks for taking the time to help me.
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If you want to carry on along the path of doing right by God and the bible, then you need to consider your future with your boyfriend because the bible speaks clearly about being with a non believer:


2 Corinthians 6:14-15

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?
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Originally Posted by nix If you want to carry on along the path of doing right by God and the bible, then you need to consider your future with your boyfriend because the bible speaks clearly about being with a non believer:


2 Corinthians 6:14-15

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? you beat me to it, Nix. (^_^)
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Glad we could help! ^_^