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I'll try to make this short.
My mom always gives me a hard time about girls. She's constantly asking who I like, who I think is cute, etc. and she usually does it with other family members around. It would seem that she does it to make me feel awkward. Also, today I saw someone who I hadn't seen for 2 years and he had his girlfriend with him. After he left my mom said "You'd never do that to me, would you?". This has made things difficult for me. I've always felt that I've had to lie and tell her "no" when she asks me if I like anyone. It's horrible, I feel like I have to hide my feelings from my mother. Does anyone have any advice?
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Have you told her how you feel? If you don't communicate your feelings of her "badgering" you like this, she may never know and will probably just carry on with her behaviour.
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There's not much you can do other than tell her how you feel.
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I think its a mother thing, my mom used to always tease me about girls when I was in middle school and high school, espicialy if I hung out with a female friend.
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I'm going to echo everyone else, you need to talk to her about it. Tell her how it makes you feel, also tell her about convictions you may have (if any) about dating until you've finished your education or at least until you feel ready. Above all, do this in a loving and mature attitude.
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My mother never mentions girls, except for once when she told me I had better not be interested in this one girl, "Because her family is just nuts!"
But yes. Talk to her. Sit her down in private and talk to her. She may not see anything wrong with what she is doing, and she at least appears not to know how greatly it effects you. She may also be doing so because she is overcompensating out of a feeling that you never talk to her about stuff like that.
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Moms are usually wise and knowledgable about this type of thing. You need to talk to your mom and tell her how you feel. Is it that shes worried about you getting involved with a girl? Or is it over-protecting you?
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Originally Posted by H.M. Murdock My mother never mentions girls, except for once when she told me I had better not be interested in this one girl, "Because her family is just nuts!"
But yes. Talk to her. Sit her down in private and talk to her. She may not see anything wrong with what she is doing, and she at least appears not to know how greatly it effects you. She may also be doing so because she is overcompensating out of a feeling that you never talk to her about stuff like that. I simply say sometimes (I'm usually comfortable talking about it but, sometimes I'm not) "It's just awkward talking about that stuff to your parents you know?" or "Do I really have to answer that" You just got to remember- your parents were teenagers at one point before as well.