Question:
it seems to me that everybody is caught up in getting a girlfriend/boyfriend lately. i don't about the rest of y'all, but here's my thoughts on it: i don't want to have a girlfriend just for the sake of having a girlfriend, i want to have an actual relationship. and that brings me to my question/situation there's this girl at my church that i like, and she knows it because we talked about and i know she liked me when we talked about it, but now i'm not so sure if she does anymore. i think she was mad because i didn't ask her out. so this is more to girls since the guys are usually the ones who ask, are you hurt when a guy doesn't ask you out and you know he likes you?
i just don't understand why things can't slowly progress.
Answer:
because like most people, she wants some form of commitment, so she knows that she's not wasting her time (sorry if that's harsh).
There's no reason that you couldn't "ask her out" make a formal relationship, and then take it slowly. There's nothing that says you have to be lovey dovey, kissing and doing everything together right away.
Simply defining a relationship, and giving it a name makes things much easier for a lot of people. Obviously it is easy for you to work outside of an explicitly stated arrangement (many people are that way) but some cannot do that.
Go give it another shot and see how things work.
Answer:
Originally Posted by bowstaff981 it seems to me that everybody is caught up in getting a girlfriend/boyfriend lately. i don't about the rest of y'all, but here's my thoughts on it: i don't want to have a girlfriend just for the sake of having a girlfriend, i want to have an actual relationship. and that brings me to my question/situation there's this girl at my church that i like, and she knows it because we talked about and i know she liked me when we talked about it, but now i'm not so sure if she does anymore. i think she was mad because i didn't ask her out. so this is more to girls since the guys are usually the ones who ask, are you hurt when a guy doesn't ask you out and you know he likes you?
i just don't understand why things can't slowly progress. That's exactly what I did. After being hurt in a relationship, I told myself I would wait until it meant something. 4 years later, I met the girl of my dreams. It takes time.
Answer:
Originally Posted by bowstaff981 it seems to me that everybody is caught up in getting a girlfriend/boyfriend lately. i don't about the rest of y'all, but here's my thoughts on it: i don't want to have a girlfriend just for the sake of having a girlfriend, i want to have an actual relationship. and that brings me to my question/situation there's this girl at my church that i like, and she knows it because we talked about and i know she liked me when we talked about it, but now i'm not so sure if she does anymore. i think she was mad because i didn't ask her out. so this is more to girls since the guys are usually the ones who ask, are you hurt when a guy doesn't ask you out and you know he likes you?
i just don't understand why things can't slowly progress.
The irony is, the girl is most likely peeved because you have a girlfriend just for the sake of having a girlfriend, without any commitment. Basically you are trying to keep it going without commitment so you won't do the very thing that is occuring.