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Recently, I've been falling further and further into an addiction I used to have that I thought I had gotten over. Its one of those things I'm embarrassed to admit, as I speak against it so strongly all the time, but its coming to the point where I can't beat this on my own. I'm back into an addiction to pornography. I try drowning these thoughts out with Scripture, but I can't seem to concentrate on my Bible as the thoughts keep running through my head. I haven't looked at anything online or offline in days, and it keeps bothering me. Even now, I find my head cluttered with disgusting thoughts of my friend's sister, who is younger than 15. I didn't ask for this, I don't want this in my head. Its just another thing piled onto the stress I have right now.
Please pray for me. Its at the point where I don't think I can beat this by myself anymore. I can't take this... I don't want it in my head, I don't want it in my life. I wanted it gone the first time.
Gar... Please pray. Arigato.
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praying for you.
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I am praying for you.
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I know how you feel. praying for you.
-In Prayer-
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Praying.
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been there, done that, man. i am praying.
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I'll be praying for you too. As a parent, may I offer some advice? Ask your parents to restrict access to the internet to times when they are present. In this way, I try to take away a source of temptation, because "it's only a few clicks away". Have you told them about this? If not, that would be a good first step. Ask them to hold you accountable for this. It may be painful at first for everyone (yes, parents hurt too), but look at the pain you have now. PM me if you need to - I have some other ideas.
Remember, with God, all things are possible.
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Originally Posted by Hopeful I'll be praying for you too. As a parent, may I offer some advice? Ask your parents to restrict access to the internet to times when they are present. In this way, I try to take away a source of temptation, because "it's only a few clicks away". Have you told them about this? If not, that would be a good first step. Ask them to hold you accountable for this. It may be painful at first for everyone (yes, parents hurt too), but look at the pain you have now. PM me if you need to - I have some other ideas.
Remember, with God, all things are possible. I have before, but a lot of sites that I need to go to get filtered out in the process. I usually just edit my hosts file if I need to block something, but there's so much, and that's not the only way to get it. Google image search, File sharing programs...
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Originally Posted by RubberChipmunk I have before, but a lot of sites that I need to go to get filtered out in the process. I usually just edit my hosts file if I need to block something, but there's so much, and that's not the only way to get it. Google image search, File sharing programs...
Okay. Here's what I am saying. Stay off the internet unless your parents are there watching what you do. I know it's a pain, but sometimes, the things that are worth it are. I do it with all my sons and they know that I will check histories. I would be willing to help you be accountable through PM if you want - just let me know if this would help.
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I'm 20 in less than two weeks, and I will be moving out on my own soon after that. My computer is in my room. They don't come in my room. Ever. Simply put, that likely wouldn't work.
I'll figure something out.
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Also, check this site out. As part of the program, you make a commitment to keep yourself pure and to abstain from anything that would compromise that purity through when you get married. My sons have taken that pledge.
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Originally Posted by RubberChipmunk I'm 20 in less than two weeks, and I will be moving out on my own soon after that. My computer is in my room. They don't come in my room. Ever. Simply put, that likely wouldn't work.
I'll figure something out.
Here's what my wife did - like I said, it was a pain at first. We moved our computer with internet access out in public view in our family room. The computers in our sons' rooms have no internet access. The only place any family member can be on the internet is in full view of other family members. It places a check on everyone. This way, it's less likely to be tempted to go where you know you shouldn't.
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Porn is a common addiction. People just don't admit it. If everyone who had an addiction to porn admitted it, then there would be no need to be embarrassed because so many people would realize how many people had this addiction.
The best thing to do in my opinion is the same for any addiction. Keep yourself busy. Fill up your day with activities. Plan your day where you don't have the free time to get on the internet. Start running, get a pet and start messing around with it, find a sport. Activities that will keep you physically busy are best.
I found that there are other methods to help you beat an addiction, but many of them require a lot of will power and will keep the addiction on your mind. I don't know about you, but I am way to weak to beat an addiction like that. If you keep yourself busy, I found that you won't have to worry about having your addiction constantly on your mind.
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First, I want to commend you for having the courage to admit this on the open forum and ask for prayer. I will most certainly be praying for you.
There are three basic steps that generally help in battling any addiction:
1. Prayer - ask for God's help with this, and talk to Him about it every day!
2. Talk - you need an accountability partner, someone you can talk to about this.
3. Replacement activities - ideally this should be something that takes you away from your computer. Physical activities are best - running, lifting, etc.
I can tell you a lot more about this if you are interested.
You are an adult, so asking your parents to help you manage this probably isn't the best solution, although they might be excellent accountability partners if you have a good relationship with them.
~Blessings
Mrs. M.
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Originally Posted by MtlMom You are an adult, so asking your parents to help you manage this probably isn't the best solution, although they might be excellent accountability partners if you have a good relationship with them. Sadly, my relationship with my parents is currently in the early stages of healing. I'm moving out because I want to do things on my own, but the act of leaving my house will also help my relationship with my parents greatly.