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well..i know i've posted requests on here before...but just i feel like everything is falling apart...my boyfriend..well as far as i know we r still dating but i never hear from him or see him...i know he works alot but...i still get the feeling he is avoiding me and i dont know why...it was all fine and then...yeah...suddenly this...and i quit my job...my new one doesnt start till the end of august...im lonely...i have no modivation to do anything because i dont see the point in it anymore. everytime anything seems to go good or even make me somewhat happy it goes all wrong...its like nothing ever works out for me...my mom keeps telling me God has plans for me and all that..and i always usta tell myself that too...but if his plans involve making my next 4 years as miseriable as the last 4 have been...then i dotn know if i want a part in that...i'd rather just exist and not much more...stay home..not go out..cuz whats the point....the other night i was having such horrible thoughts that i almost checked myself into the psych ward...im not joking or saying that to be rude or make fun of anyone who has been there...i was actually serious...if i had been alone that night i would have seriously driven myself to the hospital, but luckily my parents were here visiting me...i dont know...i just dont want this anymore,..it feels so hopeless and pointless...it hurts so bad sometimes it hurts to breath...ive been trying to come off of the medication i was on for anxiety and depression...maybe that has something to do with all of this i dont know...im sorry if i sound like im all complaining about my life and all self pitty and all...but its just...i need to get it out...i need help...im so alone...i feel like im a million miles away from God..today was the first time in over a month ive gone to church (i hadnt go for so long because of the job i had)...it made me feel better..for a whole..hour???..then reality hit me again and i realized i still have the same life and still have to live like this everyday...last night i was talking to a friend of mine..he asked me what makes me happy...funny thing is..i dont know...i really dont know...i thought my boyfriend did..but im so confused about that situation right now that...i dont know...i just want to scream already...i dont know...i guess this post was more of me just venting than anything but i'd still appreciate some prayers or advice or someone to talk to...anything...
thanks
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I'm going to send this to the advice forum as I feel you will get prayer as well as much needed advice
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Originally Posted by faithfull1 well..i know i've posted requests on here before...but just i feel like everything is falling apart...my boyfriend..well as far as i know we r still dating but i never hear from him or see him...i know he works alot but...i still get the feeling he is avoiding me and i dont know why...it was all fine and then...yeah...suddenly this...and i quit my job...my new one doesnt start till the end of august...im lonely...i have no modivation to do anything because i dont see the point in it anymore. everytime anything seems to go good or even make me somewhat happy it goes all wrong...its like nothing ever works out for me...my mom keeps telling me God has plans for me and all that..and i always usta tell myself that too...but if his plans involve making my next 4 years as miseriable as the last 4 have been...then i dotn know if i want a part in that...i'd rather just exist and not much more...stay home..not go out..cuz whats the point....the other night i was having such horrible thoughts that i almost checked myself into the psych ward...im not joking or saying that to be rude or make fun of anyone who has been there...i was actually serious...if i had been alone that night i would have seriously driven myself to the hospital, but luckily my parents were here visiting me...i dont know...i just dont want this anymore,..it feels so hopeless and pointless...it hurts so bad sometimes it hurts to breath...ive been trying to come off of the medication i was on for anxiety and depression...maybe that has something to do with all of this i dont know...im sorry if i sound like im all complaining about my life and all self pitty and all...but its just...i need to get it out...i need help...im so alone...i feel like im a million miles away from God..today was the first time in over a month ive gone to church (i hadnt go for so long because of the job i had)...it made me feel better..for a whole..hour???..then reality hit me again and i realized i still have the same life and still have to live like this everyday...last night i was talking to a friend of mine..he asked me what makes me happy...funny thing is..i dont know...i really dont know...i thought my boyfriend did..but im so confused about that situation right now that...i dont know...i just want to scream already...i dont know...i guess this post was more of me just venting than anything but i'd still appreciate some prayers or advice or someone to talk to...anything...
thanks Hows your relationship with God at the moment?
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Originally Posted by Simo Hows your relationship with God at the moment?
well like i said, i feel like im a million miles away...sure i still pray...every day...alot of times...but lately it just feels like whats the point...i try reading my bible...usually i cant focus...but lately i cant focus on anything...my life consists of sleeping...or well...exisitng...basically sitting there doing nothing because like i said i have no modivation to do anything...my house...total disaster...like i mean bad...so when my mom was here she ended up cleaning it up...
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Originally Posted by faithfull1 well like i said, i feel like im a million miles away...sure i still pray...every day...alot of times...but lately it just feels like whats the point...i try reading my bible...usually i cant focus...but lately i cant focus on anything...my life consists of sleeping...or well...exisitng...basically sitting there doing nothing because like i said i have no modivation to do anything...my house...total disaster...like i mean bad...so when my mom was here she ended up cleaning it up... You mentioned you were on medication for anxiety and depression? Perhaps you should see your doctor about dosages/ side effects.
I just want to encourage you. We all go throught similar feelings to this. When ever i start to feel down, i just start praising God. Often when we pray its because we need something from God, we often forget to praise him for the amazing things he has done. Perhaps grab a book, and each time you feel like you don't want to go on, sit down and write 5 things God has done for you.
Here is a verse i really love: Isaiah 40:31 " But those who wait on the Lord will renew their strength, they will soar on wings like eagles, they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint"
With your boyfriend, organise a specific time with him to sit down and talk. Ask him where he feels your relationship is going, and tell him how you feel. A lack of communication is detrimental to any relatinship.
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thanks for the advice and encouragement, i appreciate it
Originally Posted by Simo With your boyfriend, organise a specific time with him to sit down and talk. Ask him where he feels your relationship is going, and tell him how you feel. A lack of communication is detrimental to any relatinship.
i'd love to do that but..well...1. he works all the time 2. he doesnt have a phone 3. i left a message on his roomates cell a few days ago..he hasnt gotten back to me...
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Originally Posted by faithfull1 thanks for the advice and encouragement, i appreciate it
i'd love to do that but..well...1. he works all the time 2. he doesnt have a phone 3. i left a message on his roomates cell a few days ago..he hasnt gotten back to me... Is there some way you can see him? Even if you ask to meet him in a lunch break, or for dinner?
It would be good for you to get some kind of finality in what is going on with him, before you can move on with things.
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Originally Posted by Simo Is there some way you can see him? Even if you ask to meet him in a lunch break, or for dinner?
It would be good for you to get some kind of finality in what is going on with him, before you can move on with things.
actually there isnt...he works...on call...doesnt get lunch breaks or anything...doesnt have a schedule...nothing like that...so if i cant get ahold of him on his roomates cell i have no way to contact him...unless i drive out to him place but there is no guarantee he would be there..so thats just a waste of gas...the only time i see him is when he stops in next door...(his grannys house)...and then its usually for a few minutes cuz he has to leave right away...so basically my only hope to talk this out with him is to wait around untill i see him stop in and then go out and talk to him...
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How long have you been dating? How old are you guys?
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Originally Posted by Simo How long have you been dating? How old are you guys?
im 18 hes 23...how long we been dating...well i guess that depends when u wanna start counting...we've been "officially" a couple for...bout 2.5 months...but we pretty much acted like we were dating for prolly 2 months before that...but whats that got to do with anything?...yeah sure im young...but im also a little more mature than the average person my age...i moved out when i was barely 17...well with my bro but im basically on my own..running the whole house...i only started dating last fall...because i find dating in high school to be rather pointless...im not stupid i know the difference between right and wrong...i have respect for myself and other people...and no im not too young to know what "love" is...not saying thats what u were thinking but some people would say that...if this made any sense at all
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Originally Posted by faithfull1 im 18 hes 23...how long we been dating...well i guess that depends when u wanna start counting...we've been "officially" a couple for...bout 2.5 months...but we pretty much acted like we were dating for prolly 2 months before that...but whats that got to do with anything?...yeah sure im young...but im also a little more mature than the average person my age...i moved out when i was barely 17...well with my bro but im basically on my own..running the whole house...i only started dating last fall...because i find dating in high school to be rather pointless...im not stupid i know the difference between right and wrong...i have respect for myself and other people...and no im not too young to know what "love" is...not saying thats what u were thinking but some people would say that...if this made any sense at all No i was not suggesting you were too young to be dating. Its just hard to give advice unless you know how old someone is.
It sounds like you are at an age to have a mature and serious relationship. Personally i think you should tell him you need to have a serious talk about where your relationship is going and tell him to make the time.
Honestly if work is more important to him than his girlfriend, i would suggest that you break it off as there is no pointing wasting your time in a one-sided relationship.
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Originally Posted by Simo No i was not suggesting you were too young to be dating. Its just hard to give advice unless you know how old someone is.
It sounds like you are at an age to have a mature and serious relationship. Personally i think you should tell him you need to have a serious talk about where your relationship is going and tell him to make the time.
Honestly if work is more important to him than his girlfriend, i would suggest that you break it off as there is no pointing wasting your time in a one-sided relationship.
well i've thought about breaking it off but i dont want to do that untill i talk to him because maybe there is more to his side of this that i know...im just confused...and really...i dont want to break up with him...i really do care about him alot...and up untill now hes always been there for me...he used to live next door to me...he just recently moved...so now i just dont know whats going on...i dont know what suddenly changed...im just gonna have to talk to him...i just wish i could have the chance soon but its so hard when i have no way to really contact him right now...i was told before that sometimes when some guys get into a serious relationship with a girl and they start to have like major feelings for her they can get scared..especially if they never felt like that before...and it can cause them to back away for a while...is that true?..or what do u think about that because right now that seems like a very logical explanation of whats going on...because the last time i hung out with him he was telling me how much he loves me and how much i mean to him etc....and now i dont hear from him which is what is so confusing..
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Originally Posted by faithfull1 well i've thought about breaking it off but i dont want to do that untill i talk to him because maybe there is more to his side of this that i know...im just confused...and really...i dont want to break up with him...i really do care about him alot...and up untill now hes always been there for me...he used to live next door to me...he just recently moved...so now i just dont know whats going on...i dont know what suddenly changed...im just gonna have to talk to him...i just wish i could have the chance soon but its so hard when i have no way to really contact him right now...i was told before that sometimes when some guys get into a serious relationship with a girl and they start to have like major feelings for her they can get scared..especially if they never felt like that before...and it can cause them to back away for a while...is that true?..or what do u think about that because right now that seems like a very logical explanation of whats going on...because the last time i hung out with him he was telling me how much he loves me and how much i mean to him etc....and now i dont hear from him which is what is so confusing.. i don't know if that is common for guys. Personally its not something that i have done with my girlfriend. But i guess it varies from person to person.
When you say you don't hear from him... how long are you talking about?
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Originally Posted by Simo When you say you don't hear from him... how long are you talking about?
umm...he doesnt call when he says he will...i only see him if he stops in next door and i happen to be outside or watever and he'll say hi, give me a hug and kiss occasionally and i love you..and a i'll see you later kinda thing..thats it...the last time i've seen him was last wednesday...turned out he had and hour off of work...he spent it with his roomate...i saw him pull up so i went to say hi..so i talked to him for like 5 minutes maybe and he said he would call the next day...i havent heard from him since.
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Originally Posted by faithfull1 umm...he doesnt call when he says he will...i only see him if he stops in next door and i happen to be outside or watever and he'll say hi, give me a hug and kiss occasionally and i love you..and a i'll see you later kinda thing..thats it...the last time i've seen him was last wednesday...turned out he had and hour off of work...he spent it with his roomate...i saw him pull up so i went to say hi..so i talked to him for like 5 minutes maybe and he said he would call the next day...i havent heard from him since. It sounds kinda strange to me. If i didnt make time to be with my girlfriend she would go ape.
It seems his number one priority is his work. You need to think of if that is okay with you and if you are willing and able to put up with that!
Is he a christian?